Annette Lareau's "Unequal Childhoods" presents many ideas on how individual's socioeconomic status effects their socialization process. Lareau argues that children from the poor and working classes practice what she has termed "Accomplishment of Natural Growth" this is where children have more control over the structuring of their free time, and a more plentiful supply of free time for that matter. Lareau found in her research that these families also often had closer ties and stronger bonds with relatives, such as cousins. Though these things may be good in general for children Lareau says that they do not line up with the ideas of greater society, especially its various institutions into which children are to be assimilated. In Unequal Childhoods it is contended that middle class families offer a form of child rearing that is more parallel to these institutions ideal way of operating. Lareau dubbed this parenting style "Concerted Cultivation". This way of rearing children is comprised of a rigid structure consisting of a (un)healthy amount of extracurricular activities, from soccer to piano lessons. Lareau asserts that by associating children with these institutions and subjecting them to a rigid structure they will be better prepared for grappling with institutions later in life, a major part of the socialization process. Along with this children also learn to interact with adults in many situations and to have open dialogue with them. In addition they learn important social cues such as eye contact and shaking hands.
When I attempt to overlay my childhood with that of this book I can see some similarities and some differences. While I don't necessarily disagree with Lareau's statements I would be apprehensive to say that they apply perfectly in every situation. I can think of instances where I obtained many elements of both of these styles of socialization. From when I was in 5th grade to when I graduated high school I was involved in band, multiple sports (football, basketball, golf), academic bowl, when I turned 16 I began working. So I have had many structures associated with "Concerted Cultivation". Another example of this is my frequent contact and discussion with adults. This was due in large part because my Dad is a pastor and often I would be approached by adults wanting to talk to me and was of course obliged to act "like a model child", I learned to shake hands and use eye contact. This is where my flirtation with "Concerted Cultivation" ended however. As I mentioned my Dad was a pastor, I didn't mention that for most of that time we lived in a town of around 150 people, my dad would say "including cats and dogs", and after we lived in a town of around 350. These two facets of my reality resulted in a lower income family. This is not to say that we were excessively wanting, in many ways we lived as a middle class family, though we did live in a "double-wide" for some time (I was going to post a picture of this but you cannot get a street view in the town because apparently Google refused to drive through), we generally had two cars and presents on Christmas. We also did not have much connection with our relatives, again this is not to say that there was no connection, just more of a Christmas and Thanksgiving get together thing due to great distances separating all of us. In addition, especially in elementary school, I had a lot of free time after school and was pretty much allowed to do as I pleased as long as I told my parents where I was going, or a rough idea. This allowed me time to explore and create different games with my friends. I can see Lareau's point in her book about how these ideas come to influence children's socialization process. I do think however that we must realize that often, as in my case, children are subjected to varying degrees of these strategies, with differing results.